Why does India have such low divorce rate???............No its not the freaking Indian culture.......Or the suppressed nature of the Indian WOMAN......its the ART OF COMPROMISE.....
Indians learn it from the day their born........think about it.......You'd probably like to have been born in a single ,maybe AC room.......but you were born in a shared suite.......You like the pram with polka dots........but you got the one already used by your elder brother.........You wanted to go "THIS" school....but had to go to that cause your "DAD" knew the trustee.......and you had to travel those dirty filthy streets ruled by the cows.....cause you don't how it would be otherwise.........You wanted to learn photography.......but had to become a doctor ....You wanted to marry the love of your life(from another faith)...but married the no-so-good-looking housewife material.....there were no two ways to it.........
And this my friend is "COMPROMISE"...........kids in the US would sue the govt for dirty roads........or their parents for not having spared the rod........or killed to get into that college.........so when they don't get a wife that made good dinner or knew how to work the laundry......Its DIVORCE BABY!!!!........cause i don't have the time and patience for you rather i want the best......and there's just no room for compromise..........
The "CHALTA HAI" attitude is what we grow up with.......The good part is that we're far more understanding and adjusting........but that is also whats totally wrong in our programming..........we settle for lower than we deserve........i mean,we definitely deserve cleaner and safer neighborhoods .....and better infrastructure........and well behaved politicians .....and people welcoming newer ideas......And girls feeling safer at 3 a.m..........BUT NO!!!!........we shall compromise.........cause this is what the state can do for us......who am I to care???.....i rather bribe the cop for less than pay him to get a receipt.........its much easier to get my land registered in a days time with a little "UNDER THE TABLE" money.....why complain about the rape ??that guy is ready to marry my daughter after-all!!!..why make it a big issue cause they can kill me....??...I cant be wasting money over a CASE.....I'd get myself into trouble if I stood as witness....I'd rather live with that lie!!!....Its ok if he's not using a condom tonight......This is what we live with...........Since we cant expect them to.........rather we never expect..........so we change our ways and mould ourselves to their desirability.............
But when a "DESI BABU" goes phoren(foreign).....things change drastically dont they???........no littering on the streets cause of the hefty fine......and wearing your seat belts, also making sure that your passengers are wearing them as well......no trashing in the parks....and if you've not got a condom...we're not doing it tonight honey!!!!!......sensibilities change quite drastically right???...WEIRD...!!!.........
So really there's is nothing very ethical or moral or great about our low divorce rates...........Its just that we Indians love to take "crap" in its purest form!!!.....and don't really regret about it.....Its just how our coding works........and how we're pre-programmed from before we're born.........its COMPROMISE!!!!.........
Actually, this whole concept of "taking crap" or tolerance to put it more formally is one of our greatest assets as a nation and I think its the result of Buddhism and Gandhiism both of which took birth in our country. But it is also true that we are taking it a bit too far and making it a mask for our laziness. Good post. Made me think.