I woke up this morning to the biggest smile on my face....I attribute this mostly to my hormones and sometimes(mostly) to my oh-so-"giving" boyfriend...So with the blush and smile not showing signs of fading,i realise its times to brush....my glow in the mirror says a different story(whole other post for that)....STORY?!!!..sheesh this A.D.D is getting the better of me.....
*************************************************************************************
*************************************************************************
The idea behind this post was born thanks to Anthony Weiners fall from grace...For those who have no clue:Congressman/sexter Anthony Weiner‘s beautiful wife Huma Abedin is the latest high profile woman to be stunned to learn that her husband had a shocking sexual double life...Also with news of Arnold's "love-child" doing the rounds and how can we forget President Bill Clinton famously "did-it", denied it on national television and then capitulated publicly when then mounting evidence became overwhelming.... or our very own Shiney Ahuja??..So,Why do people(mostly men)CHEAT??..And why do women play God and "stand by their man"??....
Lets not critisize culture here....Lets maybe try and get into a CHEATERS psyche....
We all know what “it” is --- the breaking of the seventh commandment: "Thou Shalt Not Commit Adultery".....Cheating is more than an action—it's an attitude...Here are the ingredients that go into a cheater's psyche:
1)The more women I have, the sexier I feel.
2)Men aren't designed to be monogamous.
3)Sleeping with other women gives me breathing room in my relationship. It's like a vacation.
4)The other women don't mean anything. I don't see why my wife/gf is so upset.
5)A real man can satisfy more than one woman.
6)I do whatever I can get away with.
7)I have a right to be myself, and this is who I am.
8)It's easier to run to another woman than to face problems with my wife/gf.
9)It's my wife's/gf's fault, really. She doesn't satisfy me.
10)I am open-minded, and I can't help it if other people, including my wife/gf, aren't.
I am not saying every cheater harbors all these attitudes....No cheater does..They make it part of themselves...So,why again???.......
Let me explain(god i sound like a 70 yr old with all the experience and grey hair....P.S:i'm just 22)....Cheaters normally cheat with "less-attractive" counter...It has nothing to do with one’s look. One’s look will not deter a man who is going to cheat...Cheating for the man is about excitement, building up their ego, enjoying the chase and just plain mixing things up(i mean fluids as well)!!!..These men who are in powerful positions now, like Congressman Anthony Weiner or Arnold Schwarzenegger may still feel powerless or small inside — like how they felt growing up...These guys are still driven to prove that they are big men, and they can do that by conquering women, as well as conquering other status symbols. ...So no matter how beautiful the woman, it’s not enough.... Once they’ve conquered the woman by marrying her, the satisfaction goes away.
Now these guys may also be so impressed by their own power and celebrity that they feel “entitled” to cheat....And finally, in the case are some of these shocking cheaters, like Jesse James and perhaps Anthony Weiner — they cheat because deep down they are so insecure they can’t believe they actually “landed” the wife they have.... They can’t believe she actually loved them....So they decide like Jesse James that their wives must be faking their feelings. ..And that entitles them to cheat....
Relationships have got to be more erotically passionate...One of the reasons why i don't like calling marriage an "institute"....makes it seem like jail!!.....Adultery or Cheating somehow seems to have these erotic secrets that otherwise lack.....One needs to feel that desirability and erotic passion to hold on.....The thought of cheating irks when they lose their identity as a man/woman....Women especially cheat on grounds of these cause they become a wife/mother etc...and lose their "desirability....So when a man comes along..they regain it ,because he relates to them as someone desirable and beautiful...
So, if you have thoughts about cheating....Get from your partner what you got or you think will get from them!!!...Be absolutely brutally honest(my boyfriends seen my horns!!!)...One wants to be treasured ...One want to be "made-love" to....One wants their entire body being appreciated(even if it means hit the gym to gain that)....One wants to be complimented and returned the favour(even in bed!!)....And you'll be turned on just by a stare.....
This A.D.D is getting better and better.. nice post
We are victims of our needs, you say? :P Even if we can help it? :D
You hit the nail on the head !!
@kishan: thank you....