i know i know its been forever..but its much easier to maintain a journal than type thoughts that come faster than my speed.....(tht doesnt mean i type at snails pace)....
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.....its been a season of weddings and happiness and lots of its....which brings me to the over-rated yet under-talked "LOVE"......well actually not love-love........more like the aura and magic that it brings arnd it or so to say....
i was 5...barely able to read my words phonetically right...and i was introduced to the beautiful world of fairy tales...no it wasnt my mom...!!!!....i picked CINDERELLA off the library rack for its enchanting cover....as i read it...i dint contemplate being her but i did contemplate happy endings...always happy endings.....NO PRINCE(ok maybe a prince)...NO CASTLE(a mansion)....NO CROWN(shiny black sedan)...all i took from them was 'HAPPILY EVER AFTER'........
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OH that first kiss!!!...that almost magical cure to every evil....it takes so many first kisses for us to realize that its the magical start to every evil....yet still we refuse to believe that there's isn't one of that kind for us...and that when its found...it'll last longer than others....
The cynic in me pauses and falters every single time...
“Romance” is subtly touted in our culture as the ultimate experience in an intimate relationship.?Romance is idealized in movies and books as the ecstasy of being “in love.” We can’t get enough (hugely profitable grocery counter tabloids) of which “stars” are currently “in love” with whom. And, it often does not matter (really) if the are married. Oh gosh, to be like that, to experience that. Wouldn’t that be wonderful?....
... Romantic movies are often called “romantic comedies.” Ever wonder why they are so funny or why they should be? Or, at the other end, romantic movies are tragedies (Romeo and Juliet). How about the smaltzie “Bridges of Madison County” where the woman and man (Clint Eastwood) never get at the huge “emptiness” in their lives? Ever see a “real” romantic movie?.....
.... Romance is for mating. Sex (sexual union) is often the bottom line. The “chemistry” described in “romantic love” we are finding, is truly that – raw chemistry. Studies now show (just read this last week) that those “in love” have a high concentration of specific dorphins (chemicals) in their bodies. These are the chemicals found when animals are in “heat.”.....
...I also believe that we run into 2-3 people in our life-time?where we experience this “chemistry.” I have no idea why this happens. There appears to be some attraction, based on a huge number of factors that stir our juices – literally. Interesting. But, doesn’t mean that I must jump into bed with this person. Maybe some animals do, however...........
.... A person seeking romance is?often someone?looking for a high. They want? to feel good. They expect they should feel good. They believe they should jump on something that feels good. They want the pill, the drug, the retreat, the experience that will take away their pain, their emptiness, their loneliness and make them feel good. Of course, it is only temporary. The nagging pain continually emerges and their eternal search for quelling the storm within seeks a new substance...........
So, should you forget the cards, the notes, the special events I plan secretly for him/her, the I love yous and be cold, frigid and distant?......Maybe not....we love the high it gives.....the buttons it pushes....the memories it makes...and the passion it surrounds....
And for the fairy-tales....This time the princess saves the prince and does all the fighting and they live "HAPPILY EVER AFTER"........
