“Home sweet home,” you say to yourself as you step into your apartment. You are pretty soaked from the walk home in the rain(not the weather..ITS STRESS). Who knew it was going to be sunny in the morning, suddenly snowing at noon, and raining by the afternoon? “Damn ,” you mumble, as you take off your shoes and jacket quite lethargically...hopelessly rather ....

You’re glad to be home, because it was just one of those laborious and stressful days in the work when nothing seemed to go your way.Your mom called about your Dad's health getting critical by the day.Your wife is pregnant for the 3rd time or that new girl at work "STOLE YOUR THUNDER"..Or your ex-gf has moved on(with a much richer guy) or your ex-bf found a sexier material to do every night....
It’s just one of those days.

And now you’ve got the munchies.

You walk towards the fridge and open it.

”Crap,”
”I’m out of beer.”

You stick your head in closer and scan the other parts of the fridge, including the freezer, hoping to find some other beverage or food that will be the remedy to your overall unimpressive day.

A few of things you see:
1) Leftover pancakes from this morning’s breakfast
2) Leftover salad from yesterday’s dinner
3) Big slice of chocolate cake
4) Pie that was given by your ever-so loving neighbour
5) Leftover Chinese food from god-knows-when
6) A tub of vanilla ice cream and a packet of sausages

“Score,” you say as you reach out to grab your food of choice. Because you know after you finish eating it, you will feel that much better – or at the very least, feel that much fuller.


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Over-whelmed !!!!....thats exactly what i am...Trying to figure out what i want???...And when something that i wanted is happening,why am i not over-joyed..exactly the way i imagined??

There's a little secret here...I listen to back-street boys and westlife and boyzone when over-whelmed...its not like i feel better but maybe i just start imagining circumstances where i'd be happier in...They are my secret-pick-me-up songs....

I'm feeling heavy and helpless...and i'm probably the best to camouflage it...and none,not even my self acclaimed know-it-all mom will see through my restlessness....i finished brushing my hair,chewing my nails and swallowing them,waxed my legs and tried every dish i hadn't tried before from "NIGELLA'S COOK BOOK"....She's like my saviour in times of distress or when i wanna cry and never find a shoulder to...sometimes all i require is a hug....and when i dont get it(which is way too often..thanks to the double coated shell around me),i run to find the same comfort from food....

Comfort food i describe as something that can be relished all by myself..without the guilt of not sharing..and i'm filled with heavenly gratitude!!!!INSTANTLY!!!!!.....
It can be something as simple as bread with warm(comforting)full cream milk and castor for some crunch....Or as elaborate as cooking some biryani just to give you that sense of achievement when you especially feel worthless and love-lacked...

I know none are remotely interested in my food for thought...but there's nothing more loyal(not even your dog) than food...cause it turns out just equal to the amount of effort you put in...Now thats the kind of math i get(without the x's and y's)...

Picture it: you’ve just broken up. Eyes red from crying, you listen to "One is the Loneliest Number" on endless repeat; no matter what the season, every time you step outside it rains. In a daze, you stumble through your kitchen, and inexorably you are drawn to the freezer; to the third drawer down; to the ice cream. Of course the slightly freezer-burnt Mint Chocolate Chip tastes good, it always does, but with every creamy bite, you find yourself thinking—for the moment, at least—that everything is going to be okay.

This all too familiar scenario is tied into a grand human tradition: comfort food. The fact that we seem to gravitate towards certain foods in times of grief is nothing new.The point is, our bodies clearly physically respond to comfort food, meaning your craving for Mac n’ Cheese after a funeral isn’t just in your head. People do a lot of unhealthy things trying to cope with pain and loss, from self-harm to drugs; in the grand scheme of things, eating some extra fat can’t be that bad, particularly when your body is telling you to. So when the need arises, don’t sit sadly in the rain or make good friends with a bottle. Instead, head to your freezer, grab that ice cream,bake a cake or try something new from that dust gathered cook book and indulge for a while!...

<>My strife to become fair and beautiful as wanted in the matrimonials started right at my mother's womb...Obviously i dint do the struggling(lucky me)....milk with saffron ,cherries,plums and everything my great grand-mom thought would make me "lovely" was pushed through my moms gut..cause everyone would be rather upset if i turned out dusky like my dad..its not like my parents cared.....they loved me from the moment i was conceived and i would be more than just "skin and hair"....

I was born comparatively fairer than the rest in my family...maybe 'twas the milk after-all....but all my super lovely and far more beautiful sister heard was "you've got great features...wish you had a little more colour(white is not even a colour...."...
Is it like every mans fantasy to sleep with a blonde ???...or why else would it be so over-rated...this i dont know...Every-one is shallow....even the super rich who do not want to endorse fairness creams but are going paler and paler by the day,thanks to all the procedures they can afford....They are society hypocrites who not only want to take a stand but also cant do without it otherwise.....

This is a sort of racism..Why are we being judged by attributes that i'm born into??..I'm indian,I'm short...I am particularly proud of myself and need not be questioned....what i can otherwise be questioned are choices that i have made over the years..and these are things you can judge me by...why judge my assets when you can judge my personality..we're just one hollow judgemental society that finds negativity every-where....

Young men are no less at contributing to this kind of racism...they want a fair-saree wearing-hotshot-model material as their wife since the time they realize that that its testosterone that runs in their blood....even porn sites are filled with white-naked-women....whats with all the over-obsessed nature that drives them to become so shallow that they want a white-skinned-whore to a real true "COMPANION".......

I sometimes even blame DISNEY for this unwarranted desire...every princess....every fairy...every-one of them is "SNOW-WHITE"...LITERALLY!!!...and they find a loving man of their dreams who fights against all odds to have her((BULL SHIT))...What with fairytales like sleeping beauty talking about “who is the fairest of them all” and Snow White and Barbie dolls becoming role models for little girls...I'm yet to find girls owning duskier barbies'. Right from our childhood the message is clear, and in later years it is only reinforced in many ways.....Its all fed in the sub-conscience....just like how we know good and bad...we also know who is better.....

Have you ever heard of a man going under the knife to get his butt right..or his arms trimmed....its always a women getting a boob job OR her hymen fixed OR face-life OR Liposuctions....The number of procedures are infinite and they some-how only cater to women cause we're standardized to mere sex objects...And what makes us think we're never "GOOD ENOUGH"....growing up i always thought i had a BIG NOSE(i still think i do but a different one)....Try putting Angelina jolie's lips and Jennifer Anistons nose and Drew Barrymore's cheek together....They look almost Spastic!!!...We're in a way challenging GOD's artistic and creative skills.......

I have nothing against the "FAIRER SEX"....or against those who use fairness creams...cause i use one myself(great sun-screen)....it will only help you sustain a tone that you already have and wont make no miracles happen.....but i feel horribly pathetic for those who are ashamed of being dusky and try rub their skins white just for "FIT IN" and be more desirable.....Strangely, how educated or affluent you are has no bearing on this prejudice.....Look anywhere and everywhere, there are blatant and subtle reinforcements that only fair is lovely....

Tomorrow is INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY...And being the cynic that I am ,I care less about yet another day to make your pockets lighter...And all this erky "FEEL-GOOD" makes me want to hold a "MAN" by his collar and tell him that we dont require a WOMEN'S DAY when there's isn't one for a MAN...I mean whats with all the stupendous amount of un-wanted ,un-deserved and un-necessary attention ???....

Throughout history women have strived for equality. The informal slogan of the Decade of Women became “Women do two-thirds of the world's work, receive 10 percent of the world's income and own 1 percent of the means of production” . Throughout the world the disparity of rights for women is immense.

The inequalities between girls and boys are evident prior to children beginning elementary school. Girls are made aware that they are unequal to boys as soon as they start. Even different behaviors are acceptable for boys than for girls, for instance. Every time students are seated or lined up by gender, teachers are affirming that girls and boys should be treated differently. Girls are praised for being neat, quiet, and calm, whereas boys are encouraged to think independently, be active and speak up. Girls are socialized in schools to recognize popularity as being important and learn that educational performance and ability are not as important.

"Girls in grades six and seven rate being popular and well-liked as more important than being perceived as competent or independent. Boys, on the other hand, are more likely to rank independence and competence as more important"..

I can even argue the above....Well, GOD made Adam and Eve...totally different...He expected them to be different and have certain strengths and weaknesses...And i feel neither have it easier...But some-how men put themselves as GOD...be it work...or Home..Here respect comes out of pity more than it being well-deserved....."She's a lady driver...let her pass"...or "She's a LADY-CEO....how cool is that??"......or "For a girl your a great player"...I DONT WANT PITY....I just want to be appreciated ..and not in comparison to anyone...just plain APPRECIATED!!!!...How hard is it for so-called over-rated "MEN" to get the hint ???....well, it is hard since all they have is brawn and little or no-brain...from when did just being physically stronger make then own everything??..even the title of being the "HEAD OF THE FAMILY".....

Women on the other hand love indulging themselves in this kind of self pity..Even me!!!..They have a more polished word for it...its called CHIVALRY!!!!...So its ok if he slapped me to shut me up...cause i wouldn't have otherwise...or, Its not called "RAPE",he's my husband after-all and all he wanted was to make some love.....OR...His work he so stressful that he comes home and abuses me in-front of our kids.....ITS ALL JUSTIFIED..!!!!!..CAUSE HE'S GOT A PENIS AND I HAVEN'T!!!!.....

There is one set of standards that apply to men, and another set of standards that apply to women. This is evident in the home, workplace, and society in general. The problem of men and women not being equal can be traced back to the Declaration of Independence. The Declaration of Independence proclaimed that all men are created equal. There was no mention of women being equal, only men. At the time of the drafting of the document, the men had all the power. The document was even drafted by a man. Women were confined to the home to take care of the domestic housekeeping duties. Look no further than the home to see the first sign that men and women are not equal. The traditional role of the man was to work and the money he made would be used by all in the household. The traditional role of the woman was to stay home, take care of the children, clean the house, and cook. Because society has always associated money with power, the person bringing home the money had the power. The man often makes the final decision on all household matters because he has the money.

The workplace is another place where men and women are not equal. The most obvious sign starts at the top. Look at the CEO of the corporation. The majority of CEOs are men. Women serving as CEOs are a rare sight. Another sign of the unfairness can also be found in the lower ranks. Men are often applauded for being assertive and giving orders. By giving orders, men are taking a leadership role. Demonstrating leadership ability is a quality that employers often look for. On the other hand, women who are assertive and give orders are not well liked in the work place. They are considered as bitches by men. For women to be well liked in the work place, they have to be subordinate to the men. The salary of men and women who do the exact same work differ.

Secretaries, nurses, and maids are associated with women. Corporate executives, lawyers, doctors, politicians, and construction workers are associated with men. Society as a whole has also contributed to the problem. It starts at the hospital when a baby is born. Boys get blue blankets while girls get pink blankets. Toys are targeted at either boys or girls. Toys that are targeted at boys include trucks, blocks, guns, and soldiers. Toys that are targeted at girls include dolls, kitchen utensils, and doll houses. Boys are raised to be aggressive, tough, dominant, and daring. Girls are raised to be passive, emotional, sweet, and subordinate. The pattern continues on through marriage and beyond. A clear example of male dominance can be seen when a woman gets married. The woman would change her last name to that of the man's. She also loses her first name in some instances too. When a piece of mail is addressed to both parties, the name reads Mr. and Mrs. John Doe. The woman's name is not mentioned. Another example that men and women are not equal are the terms used to described the sexual habits of men and women. Men who are promiscuous are considered studs, macho, and manly. Men often boast about the many partners they have had. Women who are promiscuous are considered sluts, whores, and prostitutes. Women tend to hide the number of partners they have had. If a man has sex before marriage, he is getting experience and exploring his options. If a woman has sex before marriage, she is not considered pure, a quality often desired by men. There is clearly a double standard for men and woman for the same type of behavior. The problem of inequality between men and women started with the Declaration of Independence. Society has lived with this inequality for many years. It's impossible for society to change overnight. The problem will not and cannot disappear overnight. A lot of progress has been made over time but, more time is needed to finish what was started.


This can go on forever and we can only land up with dust until change happens at the grass-root level i.e home..until then all this is just HOLLOW TALK...!!!..There'd be EQUALITY only if there's just wasn't any talk about it and people would look above the differences....Thats one day i know i wont get to see in this life-time of mine... Till then..I dont need no compliment...or your money....nor do i need your crappy chivalry....i am complete as myself and need no big chested hairy man for it......

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